My Idea Of Self Care

The Self-Care Sunday trend has really taken off. Personally I don’t care much about Sunday because I usually have familial obligations so the weekend is rarely about me. But my fiance does work night shifts and these are the times that I usually indulge in what I want.

It looks different every time and it does depend on what night of the week it is. If its a weeknight it usually involves yoga with the dog trying to kick me in the face, cooking myself a nice meal that I wouldn’t cook for my fiance (because he’s fussy, not because I don’t want to cook him delicious food) with very loud bad pop music and watching Pretty Little Liars with a glass on wine in hand. Some nights I might stay up to 2 in the morning watching horror movies, waking the next morning whenever my body feels like it. Or it could be your typical idea of self-care activities – long shower, face mask and nail polish.

My self care looks very different to what you see on Instagram. It’s not always about meditation, green smoothies and sun salutations on the rocks at the beach at sunrise. Its about finding what works for you and what brings you peace or whatever it is you seek. Self care can be a nap in the afternoon, a glass of wine with dinner, reading a book via candlelight or watching your favourite show. Its meant to be something that makes you feel good inside, that lets you relax and ease yourself back into the moment rather than having your mind run at a million miles an hour. Just remember that it’s what serves you and not what is picture perfect.

Intentional Spending

I feel like I’ve been spending so much money lately that I thought it was time to reign that back in. I want to be more purposeful with my spending, to anticipate and plan my purchases instead of reacting to wants and things on sale. This has partly been inspired by my road to minimalism. I’m also going to start keeping track of my purchases again because I find it interesting to see exactly what my ‘I don’t know where all my money has gone’ money is being spent on.

So these are my intentional purchases for this month.

  • 2 birthday presents – $20 for the first and $50 for the second as it’s a 30th.
  • Dinner and drinks out for the first mentioned birthday – $100
  • Half of my eye brow appointment that I already have booked in – $320
  • An outdoor dog bed as the bed now is riddled with bugs and has been destroyed – up to $100
  • Dinner, drinks and parking before a concert – $100
  • Nibbles and food for my birthday – up to $200

I’ve also added a list of additional purchases. They’re purchases that don’t need to be made in a certain month – they’re more for when I’m looking for something but can’t really find exactly what I’m after so I want to keep an eye out for them.

This is my list of additional purchases.

  • Black loafers/shoes for work – up to $150
  • A new water bottle that tallies how many bottles have been drunk, is BPA free and made of glass – $50
  • Single serve bowls that can be microwaved x 4 – up to $50

All those purchases add up to pretty much all my spending money for the month so I’ll need to re-jig groceries as my fiance and I tend to eat expensive even at home. Or, he can pay for it all which to me is a much better system. It’ll also mean no impromptu dinners out, unless fiance is paying and no ‘just cuz’ purchases. To tell the truth even my ‘just cuz’ purchases get forgotten about. I have magazines that I’ve purchased every month this year that I still haven’t read. I have new books that I haven’t even started, I have new nail polishes even though I don’t really paint my nails anymore so it seems that I’m just spending money for the sake of it rather than because I really needed it or thought deeply about it.

I’m hoping that this will help me really think about what I’m purchasing and why I’m purchasing something. Do I really need it or do I simply want it?

Things I Don’t Give A Fuck About

About a month ago I wrote a post about the ‘Not Giving a Fuck‘ philosophy and initially I wanted it to go in one direction and it went somewhere else so here is part 2.

Here I am going to list a number of things that I just don’t give a fuck about

  • Other people’s travel stories – I honestly don’t care about your travel stories. Unless you did something that the majority of tourists do not do, I don’t want to hear it. And no, I don’t want to look at the thousands of photos that you haven’t bothered going through yet.
  • Other people buying houses – Whilst I’m happy for you, I don’t care where it is, how much it cost, what it looks like or what you’re going to do with it. See how my eyes are glazing over? It’s because I don’t give a fuck. But again, I’m happy for you!
  • Cars – Just get me from A to B safely. I don’t need any more details.
  • Coffee – I don’t drink it therefore I don’t want to hear if yours is bitter, burnt, or any other adjective. I don’t care.
  • Hearing complaints about public transport – seriously, it’s public transport. Deal with it and stop whinging.
  • Complaints about traffic –  I don’t give a fuck if you get stuck in traffic everyday. It’s obviously just a part of your life so deal with it. Silently.
  • Your kids milestones – The only kid I care about right now is my nephew. Mostly because I’m invested in him. I don’t care if your kids went on the potty. I certainly don’t need to see said potty posted on facebook.
  • Kale – I know its healthy but I hate it.
  • Your gym workout – I’m glad your working out and getting healthy and tbh I do love the pics you post on Instagram but I don’t want a rundown of your exact workout. I don’t care because what works for you is probably not going to work for me, or I’ve already tried it.

What do you not give a fuck about?

Project Pan 50

I heard about this idea a few years ago. The idea behind Project Pan 50 is to throw out 50 items of skincare and cosmetics, forcing you to downsize and keep the items that you actually use. I’ve actually done this before and threw out much more than the 50 items but now that I don’t buy as much, I want to see whether I can do it or whether I’ll hold on things.

Its amazing the amount of products I had previously kept ‘just in case.’ That statement seems to be a big hindrance in me being able to let go and throw things out. I always end up thinking of the cost – ‘but it was expensive’ or ‘what if I throw it out only to find I need it next month and have to buy another one.’

To be honest, my skincare routine is pretty simple – for day time it’s cleanse, moisturise with a day cream and sunscreen. At night its cleanse, leave Retinal A cream on for half an hour then wash off, then moisturise with a night cream.

My make up routine is just as simple . For work I only use mascara and powder and that’s if I bother to wear any make up at all. When I’m going out, I may wear BB cream or foundation, mascara, some eye shadow, eyebrow powder, bronzer and some lip gloss.

Considering how simply it all is, its incredible I still have so many products.

So I’m really excited to be doing this project again. I want to be able to have just the essentials without too much fluff distracting me. It’ll be good to get rid of all the expired make up. It’ll be great as well as my bathroom will be renovated within the next 6 months so it’ll be really nice to start with what will feel like a clean slate.

Have you done Project Pan 50? If not, would you consider doing it?

Purpose – My Word For 2017

Being the second week of the new year, I have all these intentions on how I want my year to be. So many thoughts about what I want to do, what I want to achieve and how to be the person that I want to be.

There’s been a bit of a shift amongst the wellness world away from resolutions and even goals and towards a one word (or statement) that people are choosing to live by. It’s a word that they use to sum up their existence for their year. Words like productive, faith, freedom, security and resilience permeate the blogs of people who are choosing to take this path.

It takes a bit of time to think of one word to sum up an entire year. But I think I’ve got mine. Actually no, I know I’ve got mine.

Purpose.

That is what I want my life to encompass.

I’ve thought a lot about how I live my life and I don’t really have any sort of plan of attack. I go about my day without much thought and really, without much purpose.

I want to strive for more.

I want there to be purpose in everything I do, from the clothes I wear, to the groceries I buy, even to what I do with my spare time. I want my finances to work as hard as they can rather than just help me work towards vague ideas. I want decisions regarding my health and well-being to be in line with the goals I’ve set for myself. I want my relationships with the people around me to fulfil me rather than act as a filler. I want to act with intention and know that everything I do has some sort of meaning to it.

I know purpose is the perfect word for me right now. But the year is long and I don’t want to limit myself to this word if things change. I’ll keep this word as my driving force for as long as it makes sense and if it needs to change or expand, then so be it!

Do you have a word/phrase to sum up your year?