Intentional Spending – August

August should, in theory be a quiet month. My jaw surgery is tomorrow (eek!) and I will be staying at my parents for a couple of weeks. I think most of my expenses this month will be train tickets to get to the surgeon for check ups.

August Spending

  • Train ticket for surgeon appointment number 1 – $6.00
  • Train ticket for surgeon appointment number 2 – $6.00
  • Rates Payment – $1432.00
  • Body Corporate bill – $350.00 (I’m not sure if this is actually coming but I haven’t paid one in a while so I’m anticipating it’s arrival)
  • Father’s Day gift – $50.00
  • Nephew’s birthday present – $50.00
  • Beautiful You course repayment – $396.00
  • Dinner out as a last hurrah – $150.00

This is my list of additional purchases.

  • Black loafers/shoes for work – up to $150
  • A new water bottle that tallies how many bottles have been drunk, is BPA free and made of glass – $50
  • Single serve bowls that can be microwaved x 4 – up to $50
  • iPod – $219 (new item)
  • Doorbell – purchased last month by fiance

I haven’t added anything new to the additional purchases list. I think I will probably get the iPod this month but I’ll see how I feel in terms of getting out of the house and driving. Although I don’t have it as part of my intentional spending list, I think my grocery bill will decrease significantly as I’ll be buying mostly fruit and veggies to blend into smoothies.

Budget Spend – $2440.00
Additional Spend – $469.00

Being In The Moment

I wrote a post about 4 months ago about a digital detox but I wanted to do another one. Not necessarily a follow up post but just another post because I think it’s important to reiterate how easy it is to spend mindless hours on your phone.

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted to my phone. I can usually go hours without checking it and in fact, many family and friends often express their frustration that they will call or text with something urgent and it’ll take me hours to respond – if I respond at all.

But usually this happens when I’m occupied elsewhere. If I’m reading, or watching tv, working on my blog, studying, spending time with my fiance, dog, friends etc. Like right now, I’m writing this whilst watching Gossip Girl on my day off. I actually don’t know where I’ve left my phone. But when I’m at work or ‘bored’ I’m on my phone. A lot.

‘But not that much.’ I always reasoned to myself and to be honest, in comparison to a lot of other people, I’m probably nowhere near as addicted to my phone but the point is I struggle to not pick it up when I’m at work and mindlessly scroll through Facebook or Instagram or Pinterest. And I’m starting to realise the strain it’s actually putting on my body. My neck and shoulder muscles are tight and I have to think about straightening up and lifting my head instead of hunching over.

When I wrote the initial post I had been scheduling regular ‘no phone time’ at work. Usually a half hour to an hour of not looking at or touching my phone unless it rang and then depending who it was I’d either answer it or ignore it.

So how did I feel whilst no phone time was in session? Anxious is probably the best way to describe it. I kept looking at my phone wanting to start checking apps even thought I knew nothing new has happened.

Its interesting that I felt and still feel this way because I’m not the type of person who needs to know things first. I’m not the type who has to post or comment on something straight away so I really don’t understand why I feel this way. It’s obviously a case of FOMO but I can’t quite pinpoint why I need to be in the know.

This feeling has prompted me to do more about my addiction to my phone. Ironically I downloaded two apps so I can check myself. One app is to track my usage, aptly titled App Usage – it tracks every move I make on my phone as well as how long I spend on each app and will provide a summary at the end of the day of how long overall I have spent and how often I’ve checked my phone.

The second is called Digital Detox where you can start challenges of not using your phone for x amount of time. You earn points throughout the challenges. You can also give yourself 2 x 5 minute breaks if you really need to use your phone for whatever reason. The only time I’ve used it is when I was transferring myself money and forgot that the bank sends the code to my phone.

I always feel a bit jumpy when my phone is on detox. It’s amazing how hard it can be when you know you can’t use it and how you feel like you are missing out on so much.  It’s also amazing how many things you think of that you ‘need to do’ but can’t because your phone is locked.

I’m hoping this app will instill in me to not check my phone all the time. To be honest I don’t need to be on my phone 24/7 – my job doesn’t require it, and there’s never been anything that has been so important that it couldn’t wait an hour. It’s also encouraged me to use a physical diary instead of putting all appointments in my phone. I seem to remember things more when I’ve written them down.

There are a couple more things that I’ve been doing. I’ve been turning my data off and only turning it on when I need it. I’ve also disabled all my notification for my apps so I won’t be teased with a little symbol telling me that someone has done something that I may or may not be interested in.

So far I’m doing ok with it. Some days are easier than others. My record one day at work was checking my phone only 56 times compared to some of my worst where I check it up to 200 times a day. I know, even 56 times seems like a lot but it made me realise how often I check my phone for something like the time, don’t even register what time it is and then have to check it again. Never mind that I wear a watch and when I’m at work I’m on a computer and also sit next to the office clock.

So I’m going to keep going. I attempt 3 hours of detox during work time and 2 hours when I’m home. It’s hard but it forces me to find other things to do. I’ve rediscovered how much reading I can get done, how much house work I can do, that I can spend that extra time with my dog and fiance. It’s basically made me rediscover all the things in my life that I love doing instead of mindlessly scrolling through stuff that I don’t even really care about.

 

 

When It Shouldn’t Be Gratitude

I’m on a few forums and FB pages where there are weekly thankful/gratitude posts and I really do enjoy reading them. Not only do they act as reminders to be thankful for what you have but they can also give you a deeper understanding of the people you interact with and how they view themselves and their lives.

What I have noticed is a lot of people being thankful for things that, whilst I appreciate, I’ve come to expect. And I don’t necessarily believe that I’m in the wrong to expect these things.

One example was a woman who had a car accident (where she was unhurt but the car was a write-off). She was understandably shaken by the experience and she posted that she was so grateful that her husband “picked me up because he didn’t have to.”

I’m just going to write that down again. She was so grateful that her husband picked her up because he didn’t have to. Um WHAT?

That is definitely one situation where I would expect my fiance to come and get me. I would expect that he would stop what he was doing and come to me. Just like I would for him. In fact I’d be livid if he didn’t.  Maybe it was the way she wrote it but to me it came off as if her husband did her this huge favour and not as something that a reasonable human being would do.

I have come to expect this sort of behaviour because of the way I was raised.  I’ve regularly left work early if my fiance or family have needed me. When my mama was really ill last year I would never ask permission to leave work when she needed me, I simply told my boss something was up with my mum and that I was leaving and would either be back later that day or the I’d be back the next day. I understand that for some people their jobs aren’t as flexible or willing to appreciate that family and friends come first so maybe that’s why I am confused by some of these grateful declarations.

But you know what? It is something that I’m thankful for. I am thankful that I am in a relationship where its expected that we help each other out. I am thankful that my family have taught me what’s important in my life. I am thankful that the jobs I’ve held don’t require me 24/7 and I can leave when I need to. And I hope that the people out there who feel that they don’t deserve that sort of dedication realise that they actually do.

My Idea Of Self Care

The Self-Care Sunday trend has really taken off. Personally I don’t care much about Sunday because I usually have familial obligations so the weekend is rarely about me. But my fiance does work night shifts and these are the times that I usually indulge in what I want.

It looks different every time and it does depend on what night of the week it is. If its a weeknight it usually involves yoga with the dog trying to kick me in the face, cooking myself a nice meal that I wouldn’t cook for my fiance (because he’s fussy, not because I don’t want to cook him delicious food) with very loud bad pop music and watching Pretty Little Liars with a glass on wine in hand. Some nights I might stay up to 2 in the morning watching horror movies, waking the next morning whenever my body feels like it. Or it could be your typical idea of self-care activities – long shower, face mask and nail polish.

My self care looks very different to what you see on Instagram. It’s not always about meditation, green smoothies and sun salutations on the rocks at the beach at sunrise. Its about finding what works for you and what brings you peace or whatever it is you seek. Self care can be a nap in the afternoon, a glass of wine with dinner, reading a book via candlelight or watching your favourite show. Its meant to be something that makes you feel good inside, that lets you relax and ease yourself back into the moment rather than having your mind run at a million miles an hour. Just remember that it’s what serves you and not what is picture perfect.

Intentional Spending

I feel like I’ve been spending so much money lately that I thought it was time to reign that back in. I want to be more purposeful with my spending, to anticipate and plan my purchases instead of reacting to wants and things on sale. This has partly been inspired by my road to minimalism. I’m also going to start keeping track of my purchases again because I find it interesting to see exactly what my ‘I don’t know where all my money has gone’ money is being spent on.

So these are my intentional purchases for this month.

  • 2 birthday presents – $20 for the first and $50 for the second as it’s a 30th.
  • Dinner and drinks out for the first mentioned birthday – $100
  • Half of my eye brow appointment that I already have booked in – $320
  • An outdoor dog bed as the bed now is riddled with bugs and has been destroyed – up to $100
  • Dinner, drinks and parking before a concert – $100
  • Nibbles and food for my birthday – up to $200

I’ve also added a list of additional purchases. They’re purchases that don’t need to be made in a certain month – they’re more for when I’m looking for something but can’t really find exactly what I’m after so I want to keep an eye out for them.

This is my list of additional purchases.

  • Black loafers/shoes for work – up to $150
  • A new water bottle that tallies how many bottles have been drunk, is BPA free and made of glass – $50
  • Single serve bowls that can be microwaved x 4 – up to $50

All those purchases add up to pretty much all my spending money for the month so I’ll need to re-jig groceries as my fiance and I tend to eat expensive even at home. Or, he can pay for it all which to me is a much better system. It’ll also mean no impromptu dinners out, unless fiance is paying and no ‘just cuz’ purchases. To tell the truth even my ‘just cuz’ purchases get forgotten about. I have magazines that I’ve purchased every month this year that I still haven’t read. I have new books that I haven’t even started, I have new nail polishes even though I don’t really paint my nails anymore so it seems that I’m just spending money for the sake of it rather than because I really needed it or thought deeply about it.

I’m hoping that this will help me really think about what I’m purchasing and why I’m purchasing something. Do I really need it or do I simply want it?

Things I Don’t Give A Fuck About

About a month ago I wrote a post about the ‘Not Giving a Fuck‘ philosophy and initially I wanted it to go in one direction and it went somewhere else so here is part 2.

Here I am going to list a number of things that I just don’t give a fuck about

  • Other people’s travel stories – I honestly don’t care about your travel stories. Unless you did something that the majority of tourists do not do, I don’t want to hear it. And no, I don’t want to look at the thousands of photos that you haven’t bothered going through yet.
  • Other people buying houses – Whilst I’m happy for you, I don’t care where it is, how much it cost, what it looks like or what you’re going to do with it. See how my eyes are glazing over? It’s because I don’t give a fuck. But again, I’m happy for you!
  • Cars – Just get me from A to B safely. I don’t need any more details.
  • Coffee – I don’t drink it therefore I don’t want to hear if yours is bitter, burnt, or any other adjective. I don’t care.
  • Hearing complaints about public transport – seriously, it’s public transport. Deal with it and stop whinging.
  • Complaints about traffic –  I don’t give a fuck if you get stuck in traffic everyday. It’s obviously just a part of your life so deal with it. Silently.
  • Your kids milestones – The only kid I care about right now is my nephew. Mostly because I’m invested in him. I don’t care if your kids went on the potty. I certainly don’t need to see said potty posted on facebook.
  • Kale – I know its healthy but I hate it.
  • Your gym workout – I’m glad your working out and getting healthy and tbh I do love the pics you post on Instagram but I don’t want a rundown of your exact workout. I don’t care because what works for you is probably not going to work for me, or I’ve already tried it.

What do you not give a fuck about?

Project Pan 50

I heard about this idea a few years ago. The idea behind Project Pan 50 is to throw out 50 items of skincare and cosmetics, forcing you to downsize and keep the items that you actually use. I’ve actually done this before and threw out much more than the 50 items but now that I don’t buy as much, I want to see whether I can do it or whether I’ll hold on things.

Its amazing the amount of products I had previously kept ‘just in case.’ That statement seems to be a big hindrance in me being able to let go and throw things out. I always end up thinking of the cost – ‘but it was expensive’ or ‘what if I throw it out only to find I need it next month and have to buy another one.’

To be honest, my skincare routine is pretty simple – for day time it’s cleanse, moisturise with a day cream and sunscreen. At night its cleanse, leave Retinal A cream on for half an hour then wash off, then moisturise with a night cream.

My make up routine is just as simple . For work I only use mascara and powder and that’s if I bother to wear any make up at all. When I’m going out, I may wear BB cream or foundation, mascara, some eye shadow, eyebrow powder, bronzer and some lip gloss.

Considering how simply it all is, its incredible I still have so many products.

So I’m really excited to be doing this project again. I want to be able to have just the essentials without too much fluff distracting me. It’ll be good to get rid of all the expired make up. It’ll be great as well as my bathroom will be renovated within the next 6 months so it’ll be really nice to start with what will feel like a clean slate.

Have you done Project Pan 50? If not, would you consider doing it?